Are you thinking about moving to another country for someone you love? Long-distance relationships are by no means easy, and we understand why you would want to move closer to your partner. However, moving abroad in general is a big step, and moving to another country for a relationship is even riskier. Of course, there is no foolproof way to know in advance whether or not this is a smart decision, but there are certain steps you can take to avoid making a mistake.
So in order to help you decide whether or not you should move abroad for a relationship, we at I Love Moving have put together this short guide. In it, we will provide some basic questions you should ask yourself before reaching the decision.
Would they do the same for me?
The point of asking this question isn’t to be petty or to try and “measure” love, but simply to evaluate the seriousness of your relationship. If you are absolutely sure they would, that is a great sign. However, if something is telling you they probably wouldn’t want to leave their country for you, take it as a possible red flag. You simply might be more emotionally invested into the relationship than they are.
Of course, this changes if there are real obstacles to their international relocation. They might not have documents that allow them into your country, or they might not know the language. But if no such obstacles exist, a dedicated partner should be ready to do for you anything you are ready to do for them.
Who am I doing this for?
Do you feel like moving to another country is something you are doing in order to keep your partner happy? Then perhaps you should rethink your decision. Think about it this way: if you weren’t in a relationship with this person, would you still consider moving to that country? If your answer is straight-up no, then think twice before doing it for a partner.
Can I be independent there?
You might be moving to another country to be with someone you love, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be able to be independent and sustain yourself. Will you be able to find a well-paying job there? Would you be able to make a living and provide yourself with all the basic necessities? The last thing you want is to be completely dependent on someone else in a new and unknown environment.
Do I see myself living there for the rest of my life?
Of course, just because you are moving, it doesn’t mean you have to spend the rest of your life there. But would you hypothetically be able to? You may settle down and get married eventually, maybe even have children. Relocating internationally in such a situation is a difficult task. Can you really see yourself living there for the rest of your life? Take into consideration the fact that this would mean that you wouldn’t be able to see your siblings and friends too often either.
What if we break up?
Of course you don’t want to think about this, but if you are moving for a relationship, you should definitely consider what would happen if that relationship ends. Would you move back or stay in that country? Would you be financially independent enough to make such a decision at all? Would you have a place to live?
We hope these questions helped you reach your final decision. And if it so happens that your decision is to move internationally, you can count on I Love Moving to help you through that process.